An Interview With XIII Minutes: An In-Depth Discussion on Mental Health

Midwest rockers, XIII Minutes, sat down with us at Uprise Festival for an amazing, hour long interview. It was so good, we didn’t want to cut any of it! 

This is Part Two, an in-depth discussion about mental health, HeartSupport, and how the church can better face the mental health crisis! Check out Part One, where they discuss the history of XIII Minutes and the inspiration behind their new music.

Solid Rock Unplugged: We talked a little about mental health in your interview. You guys have been pushing HeartSupport. Why do you support HeartSupport? Besides that it’s a great organization.

Jamie: Have you ever read Jake Luhrs’ devotional, Mountains? Honestly, that was my inspiration to really get involved. Jake is really raw about things, offensively so, and I love it. Very unpretentious about where he comes from, what he’s struggled with, how he’s overcome his mountains. Honestly, why would I not want to be part of that vision?

For me, it’s really just another tool to put in somebody’s hands to help them get through their day and to get to tomorrow. We’re not changing the world, but we are helping it. If you’re struggling and you need a resource, but you don’t want to be judged for saying “I’m hurting.” We have something for you, because that line is completely anonymous. 

Jerrod: The only thing I would add is I worked with teens for a long time. I worked in youth ministry as a leader when I was 15,16, as a volunteer. I worked on staff at a church for three years and I also worked going into schools and talking to kids about relationships for 12 years. As well as doing podcasting and videos and stuff on Youtube, reaching students and teenagers. 

So I’m very aware of how pervasive these mental health issues are in our culture. You don’t overcome something, you don’t defeat a problem by ignoring it. So that first step could be something like HeartSupport for a lot of people. Recognizing that you can’t do this on your own because we are made to be in relationship. God created us as relational beings because he’s relational. So we buy into this lie that I can be in relationship with people when everything’s good, when I’m solid and everything’s working out. That’s a great time to be in a relationship, but we need it the most when we’re hurt. And they need us the most when they’re hurt. 

That’s when these relationships are proven, if there’s any true value in them. If HeartSupport can be that first step for somebody, to reach out and say “Yeah, I am hurting and I can’t do this alone.” That’s when healing begins and ultimately leads to freedom, redemption, and new life. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: Following up on that, what is your personal connection to mental health?

Jerrod: I’ve seen the effects of unhealthy mental issues, through my family, through friends, through a ton of people around me growing up. Because of the field I worked in for 12 years, I also had to be educated on the actual studies and psychology behind it. There’s a lot of misinformation. There’s a lot of things people believe that have been loudly refuted, even in the psychological community. 

The cultural lie is that this is who you are. That your mental health issue is an identity that you will live with for the rest of your life. That it’s caused by chemical imbalances in the brain that you can’t control. You’re born with it and it’s never going to get better. That’s just not true. If you believe this is your identity and there’s no hope, and it’s never going to get better, well then, what are you left with? Without vision, people perish. So bringing truth, bringing light and actually saying “No, this doesn’t have to stay this way forever. You can be free.”

At my old job, I was talking with my co-worker, who had her degree in abnormal psychology and specifically studied these types of issues and brain stuff. We were on our podcast and I shared some stuff. She was like “I don’t think that’s right.” I pulled out the sources, like the president of Psychology Today, multiple sources. As someone trained in the field, she was given a doctrine that was just not true. She had been lied to. Even her therapist one day gave her a handful of anti-depressants and said “You’re going to be on these for the rest of your life.” It’s a life sentence that these people hear.

I’m not saying all pharmaceuticals are bad and all anti-depressants are the Devil or anything like that. But what I’m saying is, this is not a life sentence. There is hope. Your brain can actually heal. It’s designed by God to do so, but it can’t heal alone, without intervention of some kind. We need each other to start doing that.  Just to get that message out there, that you are not stuck, that you do have a hope for your future!

I have a family member who is convinced that she could never have a stable relationship. Even if she did, she was never going to have kids. And now she’s married and has two kids. She’s starting to realize, you can have a life beyond. But it took people telling her that, because the world is telling you a very different story. These are the issues of our day and we need to be willing and equipped to answer them rightly. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: What do you believe the church can do to better help with the mental health crisis facing our country?

Jerrod: Well, I am a pastor. My conviction is that counseling and therapy are meant to be ministries of the church. Not separate and outside. There’s a lot of unhealthy psychology in the world today that will just double down on these unhelpful identities, like “Oh, you’re depressed and you will be for the rest of your life.”

But we have both the ability to speak truth in these subjects and to come alongside and walk with this person. I don’t have to be a detached, Freudian psychologist that has no emotional response to this person. “How does that make you feel?” while they sit on the couch. I can actually be there with you, in the moment. I can come alongside you. I can hug, I can be a brother. I can be somebody that supports you in it. I’ll do that for free, I’ll come over any time, I’ll answer the phone whenever you want. 

If we think that it’s only something an elite few can do, who have a pad and can write prescriptions, then we’re never going to be able to live up to this aspect of ministry that is so clearly in Scripture, something that we are called to. “Whoever is hurting among you.” We cry with those who cry, mourn with those who mourn, weep with those who weep. That’s who we’re supposed to be.

So much of the problem is people think that they’re alone in this. If the church could just be the church and be unafraid to step into the mess, and actually love one another, shoulder each other’s burden, many of the things that we see would not have become the issues that they have become.

We have a long way to go to get back to a place where that can be a regulatory principle. We can’t all just start being nice to each other and tomorrow everything is great. No, there’s repentance and there’s correction, of course, that needs to happen before we can get to baseline. But again, it’s possible and there is hope for that!

Solid Rock Unplugged: I think a lot of issues would be on a better path if people learned to be vulnerable. A lot of times, we’re missing that vulnerability. People go to church and they want to put out this projection that they have it all together, they’re perfect, or they don’t want anyone in their business. I was a youth pastor for six years, and I’ve seen a lot of youth pastors where there’s no vulnerability.

Jamie: It’s the fear of reprisal. What will people say? Now, churches need to stop gossiping, I can say that! A lot of people don’t feel safe in the church culture because of gossip, because of the fear of reprisal, the excommunication. Basically, we don’t want to lose our identity in the community, so we’ll hide it. That is contrary to what Scripture advises us to be as a church. 

I think there’s a tension there, because we live in a culture that finds identity in its issues, rather than its identity in Jesus. So there’s a balance in there to open this door and say “yes, be vulnerable.” But as Jerrod has mentioned many times, you don’t get to stay there. You don’t get to stay in your brokenness. We’re going to walk with you and we’re going to lead you to a path of healing and restoration. 

On the church’s side, we cannot gossip about these people. We cannot diminish them because they’re human. So there’s a double-edge sword here. Who’s going to start the movement?

Jerrod: How many times do you see a pastor being vulnerable? I was in pastoral training, it’s like, find another leader or find a leader that’s not in your church, somebody you can just open up to. So then, our people are supposed to look to us as an example. They’ve never seen us confess anything that wasn’t ten years in the past and now we’re completely healed and everything’s better. They are learning it’s “follow me as I follow Christ.” 

But rather than that, it’s just follow me as I keep hiding all the hurt and all the junk I’m dealing with, because you expect me to be perfect because I’m a pastor. So I have to keep putting on this facade, which then makes you feel like if you say something, well then you’re the weird one. You’re the ostracized one because the pastor is obviously perfect because he’s never confessed to anything. He’s never confessed to anything. He’s never said, “I’m having a hard time with this.” So it’s a self-replicating issue. 

We just keep doing it. But then every time it cycles back and multiplies and doubles down. It gets deeper and worse. That repentance I mentioned has to start from the head. The pastors have to repent and say, that’s pride. That’s fear of man. That’s fear of rejection that has caused me to not do these things. But the Bible tells us, “Confess your sins to one another that you may be healed.” The problem is we’re not being healed. We’re Protestant, we don’t do confession very well. I’m not saying Catholics do it exactly right either!

Jaime: But what they do in the confession box doesn’t go further than the confession box!

Jerrod: At least they do something and there’s a place for that. We need to understand healthy confession and that there’s freedom in it. Pride is a sin. It needs to be confessed. Maybe it’s pride standing in the way of opening up and sharing the dark things in my heart. Maybe my anxiety would decrease. Now there’s nothing to be afraid of. It’s out there!

Maybe I wouldn’t have as much worry and fear if I brought these things to life. There’s a reason it’s a command. It says “be anxious for nothing.” That’s not a suggestion, which means it actually must be possible. Now, can we get there without Christ? Without the in-workings of the Holy Spirit? No. But it is possible, otherwise we wouldn’t be commanded to do so. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: I have a history of mental health. And I remember I was going through a dark place and I thought about sharing it with the congregation I was serving at. The lead pastor was like “No, keep that. Find somebody else.”

Jerrod: Bottle it up!

Solid Rock Unplugged: If I share this, I have nothing to be afraid of!

Jamie: I think we start with a group of trusted people. I don’t think everything needs to be put out there for everybody. That’s not safe. But if we find a group, a fellowship if you will, where we have the permission to be imperfect. Again, the tension is, just because you put it out there, doesn’t mean you stay there! But when it’s out there, we can look at it and say “ok, what’s next?”

Jerrod: As pastors, we do have a higher impetus of sharing and being open. Again, how will they know if they don’t see it from us first? That doesn’t mean every pastor has to get up on stage and share every single thing. But at least share something. At least be honest with where you’re at. 

For me, when I was working in youth ministry, it was pornography. That was the thing that was buried in hiding. I did go to pastors when I was a student, when I was on student leadership volunteering, when I was an adult volunteer, when I was on staff. I went to multiple leaders. I was like “I need help here.” The messages I kept getting were “Welcome to the battle! As far as being a man, you’re probably going to deal with this for the rest of your life!” I was like “Sweet!”

Jamie: That’s encouraging. “Let me pray for you, brother!”

Jerrod: Yeah, it was so empty, so void of hope. I did not experience freedom and healing until the confession became real. Until I went to the person that I knew I couldn’t tell at all, which was my wife. I had to talk to her. I knew if I did this, I could lose my marriage. But this is the path and God was very clear with me in making it known. 

Then from there, it was six, eight months later, I told my pastor. He already knew because I had been working with him and stuff. Every once in a while, checking in to see how it was going. Maybe once every eight months? Then we got to actually share in front of the youth ministry. My wife and I, as she is still wrestling with the aftermath and stuff. We were very vulnerable. 

From that, I had four or five of my leaders come to me that night and say, “One, thank you for sharing. Two, I needed that, because that’s exactly what I’ve been wrestling with, and I was afraid.” They don’t have to get on stage and tell everybody. But they now have freedom to see that it is possible. There is truth that will set you free!

If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide, anxiety, or mental health in general, there is hope! Reach out to HeartSupport by texting 512-647-2871.

Check out XIII Minutes’ new single, “Fake,” dropping on Friday, October 3rd!

An Interview With XIII Minutes: On New Music, Band Changes, and Memes.

Since coming out of hiatus in 2022, Oklahoma based XIII Minutes has been extensively touring the country, bringing their melodic metalcore to the masses. Not only are they internet meme masters, but the band is passionate about inspiring the next generation, tackling heavy mental health issues. Through many changes, including a label switch to NRT music and a new singer, Jerrod Cunningham, they’ve continued to churn out some heavy-hitting singles, “Cult Leader,” “Stay, " and “Who Told You So.”

The wait for new music is almost over!  Mark your calendars for October 3rd, when their new single “Fake” drops. In the meantime, listen to their most recent single, “Stay.” It’s a passionate plea, tackling the issue of suicide and depression and is featured through the HeartSupport organization. We had a chance to catch up with the guys and chat about the Stay EP, HeartSupport and their musical journey, when we sat down with XIII Minutes at Uprise Festival in September.

XIII Minutes is:

Jerrod Cunningham: Lead vocals

Jamie Kucinski: Drums

Thomas Wheat: Guitar and Background vocals

John Walker: Bass

(Thomas was not present for the interview)

Solid Rock Unplugged: To start, tell me the heart behind your music. What is XIII Minutes all about?

Jamie: I think you’ll probably get three different answers on that, but there’s one commonality in it. I don’t think it’s any surprise at Uprise Festival, but we just want to give honor and glory to Christ through what we do. We can branch it down from there and give you our individual answers, but the commonality for every guy in this band simply is Jesus brought us together.

Jerrod: I think the only expounder I would put on that, it goes back to the greatest commandment. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, your soul, and your strength. And the second is like it. Love your neighbor as yourself.” That’s what causes the direction of our music, to the people we’re singing to and trying to direct them to that first love, loving them into the family.

Jamie: If you were to say something, John, what would it be?

John: Well, this is only my sixth show with the band. One thing that’s been the commonality, throughout the entire time I’ve been with these guys, is that someone comes up to the table and says “Hey, I really connected with this song, I’d like to know more about what you guys are singing about.” It’s always about connecting with people, like Jerrod said. It’s always the people we connect with, the lives we touch. That’s one thing I’ve gotten out of being with these guys, that it’s really about serving Christ and going amidst the sheep, tending to people.

Solid Rock Unplugged: Recently, you released the Stay EP and you’ve been releasing singles to go along with that. What excites you guys the most about these new songs?

Jerrod: I wouldn’t say that it’s just because I’m in the band. Because I was a huge fan of XIII Minutes before I was in the band. But what I would say is, I do feel there’s a more intentional, focused direction when it comes to the lyrical output, when it comes to the message that we’re trying to give. That comes with age and experience, being able to be more clear with what you want to put out there. Also, being far less concerned about how that message can be received. Not in a negative sense. We don’t go out trying to push people away or anything like that. But at the same time, we aren’t shying away from all I’ve ever known to be true.

Jamie: I was here at the beginning. So, I have what I consider a unique perspective. I’ve watched this band grow. I’ve been here through every transition, every different kind of talent that God has supplied. I would say that intentionality is a big thing. It’s more of a defined work. 

When we recorded the last album, it really was a group of guys who kind of stayed out of each other’s lanes. We didn’t really speak into what this person brought, or this person brought. We had a producer that would help us, but we really didn’t do a lot of that. With these song creations, we’re really interconnected with the outcome. There’s a lot of sharpening that goes into it. And I think because of that sharpening, the songs are just better!

Solid Rock Unplugged: So to go along with what excites you about the new music, what scares you?

Jamie: John? You beat some girl in the head with a bag today!

John: We were throwing beach balls and balloons, and the bag of balloons didn’t have any weight to it. The bag of beach balls did! And this one lady was able to catch it…with her face! I felt so bad about that. Luckily she turned around and saw it before it hit her.

But one thing I was really excited about with the new music was that I got to listen to it, or at least some early mixes of it, so I could prepare for the tour season. What probably scares me the most is being able to live up to the excellent songs that have come out of prior recording sessions. Now there’s just a bar there, that I’ve got to meet these guys who have been doing it for 10 years!

Jamie: I don’t know if anything scares me about it. I think early on, trying to get the band mobilized, there was a lot of fear about what people would think or what people would say or how people would receive it. I think Jerrod hit the nail on the head, I’m at a stage now where it’s like, this is simply who we are. It’s honest, it’s authentic. How people receive it is really out of our hands. If you like it, awesome! If you don’t, there’s a lot of other bands. There’s not really a lot of fear in there. I think excitement really is the one constant. 

Jerrod: Yeah, I would agree. Fear is not something that I really put in the equation. I see the opportunities that we have in this band as being a gift. I know Jamie and I, separately, have been on this music journey for twenty-something years. So now it’s like, we get to experience this, we get to share it with our families. We get to do things that we used to dream about when we were kids. Man, if it all disappeared tomorrow, if this was our last show, I’d be grateful for what God has for us. Because this was not promised. He doesn’t owe us one more show. Every time we take the stage, it’s a gift. Perfect love casts out fear. And God allowing us to do this is such a loving, fatherly thing.

John: So I’m the only one who’s scared. Got it!

Jamie: He’s young! You’ll get to this place. You’re new, it’s okay to have nerves, man!

Solid Rock Unplugged: What do you want your fans to take away from these new singles?

Jerrod: Our merch!

Jamie: That’s such a hard thing. I want a genuine response. I would rather you love or hate what we do, rather than be apathetic about it. If you’re kind of like “Eh, it’s just there,” I don’t feel like I did my job, you know? A response is good, no matter which way you lean. My hope is that you like it, but if you listen and think “No, I don’t like it.” Cool! You listened, you gave it weight and you just didn’t like it. 

Jerrod: I think coming back to the message, I really appreciate this transition season. I feel like this EP is a bridge of what XIII Minutes was in the past and the direction that we’re going in the future. It makes me really excited, because we’ve covered a lot of heavy stuff, especially on this album. We talked about depression, we talked about suicide. We talked about lies and religious manipulations, or influencers, and all of this kind of stuff. 

So, we covered a lot of heavy things, but we don’t intend to stay there. This is a bridge to get us somewhere else. This is where we’re at, now let’s talk about where we’re going. We’ve already been internally discussing, as we’re getting back towards thinking about the studio and writing new stuff. Intentionally putting out hope, putting out victory and overcoming. 

You don’t have to stay, like in the moment of a song like “Stay.” Yes, that’s the first step, but now let’s talk about where we go from here. It gets better, let’s talk about that too! I want to have crowd responses that they’re not just yelling things like “Hey!” and “Oh!” and “I’m obsessed,” I want them to be yelling things that have power. 

Jamie: Fun story, when we went to Mexico, we were sitting there going “How are we going to do our call and response? None of us know Spanish!” So we really dialed in [the intro to] “Who Told You?” The beginning, it doesn’t matter what your language is, you can do that! Our plan was actually to drop “Who Told You?” from the set list after Mexico. It was because of the Mexico response, it was like, maybe there’s something still there! That was one of the cogs that turned that drove us to do the re-write. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: In the last year, you guys switched from Rottweiler Records to NRT Records. How’s that switch going? And why did you switch?

Jamie: XIII Minutes was with Rottweiler for six years. I will say this until the end of the earth, Rottweiler opened so many doors for us in the beginning. They really did. I am eternally grateful for Shawn Browning. It was a great season! 

When Shawn sold Rottweiler, I was left with the question of “Ok, what is the vision for us? Do we still fit in the grand scheme of things?” After meeting with the new owners of Rottweiler, I just didn’t feel like we were a good fit any longer. Really, at that point I wasn’t looking for a label. It just so happened the label found us!

We met Kevin McNeese in Nashville and he loved what we were about. Unbeknownst to us in the meeting, he was launching NRT Music. Of course, Kevin’s expertise is 20+ years of New Release Today. It’s arguably the biggest Christian media site out there. When he approached us, to have that expertise behind us, it was worth the opportunity to see where it can go. There’s a risk in it, because on NRT, I think we’re probably the heaviest band. Whereas, with Rottweiler, we were the lightest band. We’ve gone to the heaviest band on the roster. So there’s these extremes. 

Jerrrod mentioned bridges. For me, speaking on my own accord, I like to build bridges. There’s so much dissension within music culture. Who cares if someone likes CCM? If you enjoy it, go enjoy it? The whole throwing stones thing, that “you suck and you suck and you suck,” and “my music is the best thing there is!” I’m like “let’s just stop!” We are all on the same team.

I think NRT was a good bridge to get in there with a lot of artists who are not like us. We hear a lot of “Oh guys, CCM stuff! Don’t you know they just write the same chorus over and over again?” Maybe we can bridge some of that and bridge for us too. There’s a risk there, it may not be received. But at the end of it, after we prayed about it and talked about it, we felt like it was worth at least the opportunity to try. 

Jerrod: And just as a side for Kevin, he has no reason to want to sign a band like us. We do not fit in with the bands that he already had and the artists he already had. He doesn’t even like heavy music! He told us that. He likes Lacey! He’s like “I don’t really like heavy music. Skillet, they’re a little bit heavy for me, I can like some of their stuff.” We’re not Skillet! But he was like, “there’s something about you guys.” He could see something that he found value in and believed in us. There’s no other reason that you would want to do this, other than, I like working with good people who have your back, who believe in you, and are willing to invest and put some skin in the game. To be able to show it, not just say it. He’s been a really great encouragement.

Jamie: Like with Shawn, I’m truly appreciative of Kevin as well. Any band that is fortunate enough to have somebody come along and say “I believe in what you do,” I think that’s great.

Solid Rock Unplugged: Now, with the switch in the label and the addition of Jerrod as the new lead singer, what does he bring to the band?

Jamie: Soul. Urban soul. 

Jerrod: A pink shirt. Just not to the stage.

Solid Rock Unplugged: The confidence to wear a pink shirt!

Jamie: I’ll speak from my perspective. Jerrod and I officially met back in 2018. It was this little coffee shop in Omaha, Nebraska that we stopped in at on this tour we were on. The first thing I saw was a family who loved their husband and dad. The kids and the wife were there. Nobody had to say a word about that. And I saw this man who obviously loved his wife and kids. 

I think there are certain things in life, many things in life, honestly, that have greater weight and value than [XIII Minutes]. Loving your wife well, being active and engaged with your children are a few of those things. So that was my introduction to Jerrod. We didn’t really go any further than that. We became friends and we stayed connected, but it was not like “Hey, you got an opening at any point?”

But God. That’s my life’s motto - But God. Not really realizing that five years after that, we were going to literally lose a singer in four shows. But God, even in that! And we had this opening. It wasn’t one of those things where Jerrod was like “Hey, I might throw my name in there.” You never know how it’s all going to unfold, but Jerrod has a voice that I knew could work. 

It’s always the question, you believe that it could, now will it work? So that was touch point number two. Jerrod said “I want to try!” And so he got his demos ready. I knew what could be, by the demos, but I will tell you when I was firmly sold with Jerrod, the talent, is our first time in the studio. I didn’t know Jerrod could do some of those things. I’m serious. He was on key for 12 hours that day! We were sitting in the studio, Thomas and I, we were like “Holy smokes, where did this guy come from?” 

That’s when we knew that this was going to be a good fit. Jerrod does well bridging the gap between the old stuff. He does the old stuff well. We hadn’t turned into a country band from what we were, right? Or a hip hop band in Jerrod’s case. 

Jerrod: You know me!

Jamie: Then on top of that, he has brought so much more of what I had in mind when I started this band. There are things he does through his voice that are the things I was looking for in the beginning. It took us a little to get there, but God, as always! Here we are, he brings what we had and then some! So he really excels and enhances everything we’ve done as a band. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: Jerrod, you have another band, correct?

Jerrod: I do, I Am The Pendragon. Been going on for 15 years now. We’re just about to release a new album and go on tour in the fall. Just a little short run tour, a little over a week, to kind of hit a few places that we love. I’m still doing Pendragon, but we make it work. We talk about the schedule way out in advance. We’ve always done a minimum of three months, except for very rare exceptions when there’s an opportunity that would come up. Even in those times, it’s “Hey, I know this is last minute,” and we make it work. 

My position has always been, if I can make it work, I’m going to make it work. If it makes sense, if it furthers a certain aspect of the band. Oftentimes it’s not financial, like “oh we’re going to make a ton of money doing it.” We may break even doing it. But is this going to get us in front of more people that wouldn’t know us? 

We did a really small show in Nebraska with a guy that we had played with earlier in the year. He’s like, “I want to bring you to my hometown.” That show was for him. There were 30 people that came out that night, it was a bar show, in and out, all that. But it was like, no, God wants us to be there for that guy.

Jamie: And it really was that guy!

Jerrod: That one show is still bearing fruit and the opportunity to speak into lives, to minister. So it’s not always something that’s going to make sense on the budget or on the calendar. But if this is where we feel God is calling us to go, we’re going to go, and we’re going to give it our all. I’m going to figure out a way to make it work! I have an extremely awesome and supportive wife and family. They come out to a lot of shows with me. This time they couldn’t, because we’re on the far side of the country.

Solid Rock Unplugged: How old are your kids?

Jerrod: My oldest, Emery, is 15. He’s the new drummer for Pendragon. He’s just taken over this summer. He’s a few shows in now. Jax is 12 and Atlas is 9. Our daughter is 7.  

Solid Rock Unplugged: She’s got you wrapped around her finger?

Jerrod: Oh no, we’ve never been those kinds of parents, which is great. My wife is very loving and firm. I am a jungle gym most of the time when I get home. I don’t even realize they’re crawling on me. I’ve had them literally climbing all the way up to sit on my shoulders, as I’m in conversation with somebody. And I don’t realize that until their hand’s on my face, because it just happens all the time. I don’t even know what’s happening any more. But we have a really fun home, a lot of love. A lot of laughter. 

John: I mean, me being new to all this, I’m still trying to figure out scheduling and things like that. However, if I wasn’t using my vacation time for this, I’d be just taking trips to places, going by myself anyway. You know, I think this has been a better, way better, use of my vacation time. 

If I hadn’t toured with you guys, I wouldn’t have met my fiancee! Our guitar player Thomas, who’s MIA right now, probably getting a nap somewhere, he introduced me and my fiancee! Just through this! Wild how it all worked out. She’s been really supportive and even excited about how this could translate into our future and that sort of thing. I’m really excited for what the future holds for XIII Minutes and married life. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: Especially if you guys keep on doing performances like you did this morning! Sheesh, you guys came out!

Jerrod: Yeah, that’s kind of the feedback that we’ve been getting. I think to people on the outside, it can seem like this all came together real quick. I’ve only been in the band for two years and we’re playing Uprise, we’re playing Icthus. We’re on Main Stage at Kingdom Come Festival, going to Mexico and doing all this stuff! But this is built on literally twenty years. Twenty years for me, twenty years for Jamie, probably close to twenty for Thomas. Twenty years of not having any of those things. And just sticking at it, sticking with it, and having a support system that can sustain it. Took a while to get here!

Solid Rock Unplugged: Jamie, this is for you. You have quite the presence on social media!

Jerrod: That’s a way of saying it!

John: Memelord!

Solid Rock Unplugged: You put a lighthearted spin on it, sharing memes in an area that’s so doom and gloom. Especially in the last week. What’s your approach to social media?

Jamie: I used to be, and I still have to fight this, a really serious person. I was in a place in life that I literally couldn’t find it in me to be joyous, unless I had some alcoholic bravery. And it bothered me! It bothered me that I couldn’t find joy. I didn’t understand, at that point, the root of where I was at. It bothered me that it took all of this other stuff before I felt like I could laugh. It was a terrible place to be as a human. It was heavy. 

I’m not saying to put my head in the sand and act like “I’m blessed and highly favored, brother!” You know, the pat Christian answer because you don’t want to look ugly or broken. But without going too deep, my story is I got sober. I came back to Christ, and I learned to deal with me sober, which was really, really hard. 

Then one day, the absolute worst news you could ever expect to receive happened. I received word that my little sister was murdered. I was 24 years old. Mine and my sister’s relationship was very contentious and I went into a spiral on the back end of it, of regret. Things I didn’t say. Things I didn’t do. Expressions of love. I wanted to let her know how much I loved her. But there was this thing inside of me that just wouldn’t let it out. 

I went through a really, really dark season. And the great thing about it, is in all of this, Jesus sat with me. I literally had nothing to bring to the throne. I really didn’t. I didn’t realize at this point I was depressed. Before that, I was like, “I’m too strong, it’s weak people that get depressed,” and then here I was. I was that guy I said I would never be.

The great thing about Jesus in that moment is that I wasn’t judged, I was loved! Slowly, but surely, this pretense and these burdens that I carried, that wouldn’t allow me to express joy in my life, began to be built back. And I came out on the other side with a new lease on life. But it was one where I’m not going to not do something for fear of rejection or fear of reprisal or fear of judgement. 

And that includes saying “I love you.” That includes things like crying. It was one of those things where I became free. I made a promise to myself to live in that place. So, I am not personally going to live in doom and gloom. I lived there, I know what that feels like. It’s a heavy place to be and it’s a place I don’t want to be. 

I imagine there’s a lot of people just like that, maybe just like me, that struggle to find joy. To struggle to smile and to see the goodness in others. The memes are a daily reminder, almost to myself, that every day is worth smiling at. If it makes me smile, I know there’s somebody out there that it makes them smile as well. Are they deep theological dissertations? Absolutely not. And I really don’t care! …Memes are funny! If I find them funny, I’m sure somebody else finds them funny. If their day is better because of it, then I feel like I did what I was supposed to do. 

It was really step-by-step. Every day now is an intentional choice to be joyous, to find something to smile about. Even a stupid meme! .…I read a quote recently that says “When I send you a meme, it means I took a moment to think about you,” That’s the truest thing I can put out there, that I took a moment to think about you. If you want bad news, if you want to be mad at your day or if you want to be disgruntled, you can find it pretty easy. 

It’s also a little bit of a rebel in me. I don’t want to be that and I’m not going to be. So I’m going to be something completely different. If you enjoy it, I’m glad you do. And if you don’t, I’m sorry you don’t. Because tomorrow there’s going to be probably two more memes in your feed and that’s going to make you mad. 

Solid Rock Unplugged: To wrap up, is there anything that XIII Minutes wants to promote?

Jamie: We create music because music is a bridge to someone's heart.  We pray that the message in the music comforts you, inspires you, gives you hope, or just makes your day better.  

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BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE! We had such a good time talking with XIII Minutes that we split it into TWO posts! Check back in tomorrow for a deep discussion on HeartSupport, mental health, and how churches can help.